I’m just curious. A lot of times they are chocolate and get eaten quickly. Sometime they are candles and I don’t know what to do with them. Burn them and then throw out the holder?
The prices for these things seem kinda high sometimes, so I’m wondering… what are their purpose exactly? To just give a little gift? To remind people later of the wedding?
When did this tradition start? How do you decide between chocolate, candles, soaps, or whatever else is out there? Pure personal preference or does your selection mean something?
Thanks!
1. it’s just another scam for the wedding industry to pick the pockets of the happy engaged couple. The wedding industry will pick up traditions from other areas and cultures and sell them to everyone as something they "must" have for their wedding. (for example: the groom’s cake. An old southern US tradition for the rehearsal dinner has made its way across the country and moved to the reception.)
2. the purpose of a favor is a little memento of the event. As most of them are personalized for the couple, I think that there is a vanity appeal to them as well.
3. Wealthy people throughout history have usually given out favors for their weddings. A lot traditions and shows of extravagance (ie wealth) then trickle down to ordinary people. (for example, the white wedding was an imitation of Queen Victoria’s wedding to Prince Albert by the aristocracy and the upper classes. It became a big show of wealth to buy an impractical dress that was only going to be worn once. and what was a trend has become tradition in western society)
as to when the favors became the norm. I first saw favors being passed out at weddings on the east coast in the early 90s, by the time I moved away 10 years later, favors were pretty much the norm and it was unusual to go to a wedding that didn’t have favors of some sort. Bubbles in bridal cake shaped bottles, candy, and nuts were what I saw most.
I’d say it’s personal preference or what you think your guests may appreciate and what you’re willing to spend.
We chose sandalwood fans just in case it was a little too warm that day (May). I really don’t care for favors but felt pressured to have them so I chose something practical and kinda, well, neat. I’m not sure where it began but I believe the favors are meant to be a token of appreciation to the guest. Not only do they get to go to a "party", get to have a meal but they have something that says "thank you."
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It simply is a "thank you" for the guests for attending the wedding…
Most people are doing edibles these days b/c at least they are being eaten
Instead of people throwing away the favors.
My SIL did chocolate covered pretzels, I will be doing candy called flying saucers and sweddish fish, the skys the limit!!
I am unsure where this tradition started, I tried looking it up but with no luck…
I decided on the flying saucers and sweddish fish b/c flying saucers is one of my favorite childhood candies, and sweddish fish is one of my fiancee’s favorite candy
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You can choose whatever you want. Jordan almonds which are commonly used in weddings mean 5 different things, I don’t know about the meaning of any other type of favor. The purpose of it is to give as a "thank you for sharing this special day with me" to your guests.
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Their are alot of reasons, but I would say it’s not really a tradition
To bring in more of your colors to the room
A keepsake for the wedding
A thank you to your guest
A way to make your wedding personal and/or unique
Some people do bird seed and bubbles and streamers to be used at the wedding
To give a special message to their guests (may individualized for each guest)
To show how much extra money you have to throw at the weeding. JK! :0)
I like them, esp. the ones that are DYI.
I really like this website wwworientaltrading.com
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People buy them because they’re "supposed to" in order to let their guests know they appreciated their attendance.
IMO, they’re pointless and a waste of money.
My daughter had edibles at her wedding & very few people left them behind. My DIL had scented candles at her wedding and very few people took them home.
(The edibles were done by a friend’s of DD who was in cooking school. She needed a "project," so we bought her the supplies to make them. Otherwise, DD wouldn’t have had favors.)
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It’s kind of a "thanks for coming" kind of thing, I chose hershey’s chocolates personally because i didn’t want them to just "throw them out" (why would I want people to throw my money away). It’s pure personal preference IMO, some people get cute seashell necklaces or something (beach theme), i just got the choclates lol.
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I don’t know the exact history of them, but I think that people do give them out at reminder of the special day. Its a better idea to get something that people will actually use.. Ive thought about sending a picture of us with the guest and a favor.. of course that would haven’t o be sent with a thank you card after the wedding, but its still a favor.
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1. it’s just another scam for the wedding industry to pick the pockets of the happy engaged couple. The wedding industry will pick up traditions from other areas and cultures and sell them to everyone as something they "must" have for their wedding. (for example: the groom’s cake. An old southern US tradition for the rehearsal dinner has made its way across the country and moved to the reception.)
2. the purpose of a favor is a little memento of the event. As most of them are personalized for the couple, I think that there is a vanity appeal to them as well.
3. Wealthy people throughout history have usually given out favors for their weddings. A lot traditions and shows of extravagance (ie wealth) then trickle down to ordinary people. (for example, the white wedding was an imitation of Queen Victoria’s wedding to Prince Albert by the aristocracy and the upper classes. It became a big show of wealth to buy an impractical dress that was only going to be worn once. and what was a trend has become tradition in western society)
as to when the favors became the norm. I first saw favors being passed out at weddings on the east coast in the early 90s, by the time I moved away 10 years later, favors were pretty much the norm and it was unusual to go to a wedding that didn’t have favors of some sort. Bubbles in bridal cake shaped bottles, candy, and nuts were what I saw most.
I’d say it’s personal preference or what you think your guests may appreciate and what you’re willing to spend.
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I don’t get it either. I find them useless. If I were a guest, I would just leave them and not take them home. You can find the history of wedding favors on wikipedia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_favors
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I hate favors. My hatred for them has grown over the years. I don’t need a single glass (champagne, shot, or otherwise, candle, or anything else engraved with your wedding date on it. Have a simple elegant wedding with good food and music and I’ll remember your day.
I toss favors. The only favor I have kept have been cigars. For our wedding I gave out small african violets and I did hear from guests that they liked those and still had the flower years later.
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I’m not one for useless favors either, but some brides have a knack for doing so. We went to a Christmas Wedding, which was very beautiful, and they had a decorated christmas tree, and under it, were all different kinds of gifts, wrapped up in pretty wrapping paper and a bow, and before you left, you got to take a present from beneath the tree. We got a beautiful crystal vase.
For our wedding we gave out Lenox crystal candy dishes. It all depends on the rbride. It’s just a little thank you for sharing their day with them.
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