So Kate gave me a cheap shower gift with no thought attached to it just a random piece of crap…. and then didn’t even bother to give me a gift or card or a note for my wedding. Now she is talking about getting married… Can I do the same back to her?
Why or Why Not?
I don’t care about being a better person……… Should I revenge gift?
I am thinking about giving her just a card (no money or gift) for her wedding. And something under $20 for the shower.
It’s my husband’s stepsister…. I can’t unfriend her because I am NOT friends with her.
LOL- Damn it "just me", I am trying to be evil here today! LOL
I NEVER used her gift….. but I have to find it… I threw it in the attic….. maybe I will give it back or better yet find the exact same thing in a different color.
if you have to revenge gift then why are you even bothering to remain friends with this person?
Maybe her finances weren’t in such great shape and she gave you what she could. you have to look at the circumstances at that time.
you can regift the gift she gave you. Oh you used it? Well, then I guess it wasn’t such a bad gift then.
This is the problem with expecting gifts, bean counting in your relationships, & not having a generous spirit. You will always be disappointed and no one in your life will ever measure up.
If you’re that upset after all this time then just stop being her friend and don’t send anything.
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LOL! Oh Bubbles, you sucked me in and you got me!
Sure, why not. Birds of a feather flock together.
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1. You wouldn’t want to stoop to her level if she did it to be spiteful.
2. Maybe she didn’t have any money. I had an emergency once and was unable to buy a gift for a friends wedding. I felt horrible. Maybe that’s what happened to her.
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you sound like a nice girl so why tarnish your reputation by stooping so low as to behave like she did? the gal above me has a good point - perhaps something came up and she honestly couldn’t afford to buy something you would consider nice.
if you aren’t invited to the wedding then you can simply send a nice card congratulating her on her wedding and wishing her well. if you are invited buy them a nice bottle of wine to go with the card.
for the shower if you are invited then buy a nice gift - twenty bucks can buy a nice gift so do that and don’t waste the time or energy being petty or meanspirted! if you aren’t invited then you aren’t obligated to do anything about the shower.
sooner or later karma always comes back and bites us in the bum! lol
good luck!
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revenge always backfires well for me at least but i wouldn’t spend a lot and if she was a good friends of mine i would pick a card and write a very thoughtful note just to let her know i wish her the best. if we weren’t close i would shake her hand and thank her for the invite.
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if you have to revenge gift then why are you even bothering to remain friends with this person?
Maybe her finances weren’t in such great shape and she gave you what she could. you have to look at the circumstances at that time.
you can regift the gift she gave you. Oh you used it? Well, then I guess it wasn’t such a bad gift then.
This is the problem with expecting gifts, bean counting in your relationships, & not having a generous spirit. You will always be disappointed and no one in your life will ever measure up.
If you’re that upset after all this time then just stop being her friend and don’t send anything.
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LOL! Oh Bubbles, you sucked me in and you got me!
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I believe in being the ‘better person’ most of the time and wouldn’t give a revenge gift for something like this.
I would revenge gift a couple that is tacky enough to ask for cash - - I’d be sure to buy them a lovely vase or some other pretty dust collecter and not enclose a gift receipt and try to remove all traces of what store it originated at from the packaging, too.
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You would make a bigger statement by not getting her anything at all. Or just regift and give it back to her. Orrrr….you could send her a pack of baby diapers. Just a thought it is pretty cold….but just some ideas. Think about it hard though before making a bee otch of yourself. lol.Good luck on being evil…lol!!
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meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Stop being petty. Either give her a gift or don’t, but it’s childish, stupid and airheaded to do it for "revenge." You sound like you both belong together.
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sounds to me you already know what your going to do!
sorry i don’t not support your thoughts on being evil and getting revenge. More so over something tiny as a gift!
it’s the thought that counts and my friend didn’t get ANYTHING from some of her peeps.
but your asking me and i dont’ think you should! not because you should be the better person! but because it’s not worth your valueable time to waste so much engery on someone who cna’t give you a thoughtful gift!
i mean if you want to put forth all that effort so be it i see it as being wasteful!
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I would just re-gift the gift she gave you can send a "funny" card with it lOl
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Well it definitely speaks to your character if you only invited people to your wedding expecting them to give extravagant gifts. I thought the purpose of inviting people was for them to witness and be a part of one of the most special moments of your life?
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I don’t think that you need to be vengeful. What will you gain from it? Can you tell the person how you feel? Can you just be honest about it? It is possible that it is an honest mistake.
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Ask your husband what he wants to do.
It’s his family and he’s the one who’s going to get crap from his stepmother about it.
Your DH is probably going to elect to take the high road. Get her a decent shower gift ($20 range). Give her a gift from her registry in the $50 range.
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