Comments on: If someone gives you a cheap shower gift and no wedding gift- can you repay the favor when it’s their wedding?

By: Vashti

Vashti — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:58:59 +0000

Ask your husband what he wants to do.

It’s his family and he’s the one who’s going to get crap from his stepmother about it.

Your DH is probably going to elect to take the high road. Get her a decent shower gift ($20 range). Give her a gift from her registry in the $50 range.
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By: weddingfavorspartyfavors

weddingfavorspartyfavors — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:52:59 +0000

I don’t think that you need to be vengeful. What will you gain from it? Can you tell the person how you feel? Can you just be honest about it? It is possible that it is an honest mistake.
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By: DigitalDiva

DigitalDiva — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:25:59 +0000

Well it definitely speaks to your character if you only invited people to your wedding expecting them to give extravagant gifts. I thought the purpose of inviting people was for them to witness and be a part of one of the most special moments of your life?
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By: Gilianne

Gilianne — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 07:00:59 +0000

I would just re-gift the gift she gave you can send a "funny" card with it lOl
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By: ? Mad Luv ?

? Mad Luv ? — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 06:31:59 +0000

sounds to me you already know what your going to do!
sorry i don’t not support your thoughts on being evil and getting revenge. More so over something tiny as a gift!
it’s the thought that counts and my friend didn’t get ANYTHING from some of her peeps.

but your asking me and i dont’ think you should! not because you should be the better person! but because it’s not worth your valueable time to waste so much engery on someone who cna’t give you a thoughtful gift!

i mean if you want to put forth all that effort so be it i see it as being wasteful!
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By: casper4

casper4 — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:52:59 +0000

Stop being petty. Either give her a gift or don’t, but it’s childish, stupid and airheaded to do it for "revenge." You sound like you both belong together.
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By: Blushing Bride

Blushing Bride — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:43:59 +0000

You would make a bigger statement by not getting her anything at all. Or just regift and give it back to her. Orrrr….you could send her a pack of baby diapers. Just a thought it is pretty cold….but just some ideas. Think about it hard though before making a bee otch of yourself. lol.Good luck on being evil…lol!!
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By: nova_queen_28

nova_queen_28 — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:36:59 +0000

I believe in being the ‘better person’ most of the time and wouldn’t give a revenge gift for something like this.

I would revenge gift a couple that is tacky enough to ask for cash - - I’d be sure to buy them a lovely vase or some other pretty dust collecter and not enclose a gift receipt and try to remove all traces of what store it originated at from the packaging, too.
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By: Invisigoth

Invisigoth — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:11:59 +0000

if you have to revenge gift then why are you even bothering to remain friends with this person?

Maybe her finances weren’t in such great shape and she gave you what she could. you have to look at the circumstances at that time.

you can regift the gift she gave you. Oh you used it? Well, then I guess it wasn’t such a bad gift then.

This is the problem with expecting gifts, bean counting in your relationships, & not having a generous spirit. You will always be disappointed and no one in your life will ever measure up.

If you’re that upset after all this time then just stop being her friend and don’t send anything.

edit:
LOL! Oh Bubbles, you sucked me in and you got me!
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By: help!!

help!! — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:05:59 +0000

revenge always backfires well for me at least but i wouldn’t spend a lot and if she was a good friends of mine i would pick a card and write a very thoughtful note just to let her know i wish her the best. if we weren’t close i would shake her hand and thank her for the invite.
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