My friend’s wedding planner made us bridesmaids (three girls) wrap all the wedding favors in an elaborate way. (all 150 of them) And then she made us make and print out all two sets of the wedding program… All bridesmaids came a week early for the wedding from different countries. We are planning the bridal shower on top of the wedding errands (seems to be a million of them) I was wondering why the wedding planner is making us do all this work? Is it normal? We haven’t had much sleep and she seems to be content with us working and not sleeping until the day of the wedding.
Is it normal to make flower baskets out of plain paper and ribbons for the guests to throw when the bride and groom leave, make two sets of programs, make the guest list and seating cards, wrap elaborate wedding favors etc. etc. only TWO days before the wedding?? By the way, this happened because the Wedding Planner didn’t have the promised materials or "examples". It’s two days before.. and she still haven’t brought most of them in yet.. we’re still waiting.. all sick, and tired from lack of sleep. We have a bridal shower today and I think all three of us are about to collapse
By the way she has nothing to do with the bridal shower or photographer, music etc. the bride took care of all that.
I think some of the answers from the "wedding planners" here are misguided. We aren’t "sick" of working.. nor did we disagree to it. We were all glad to help out. HOWEVER, the problem is the wedding planner is not keeping her end of the bargain. Which is bringing the promised materials or meeting us in time to do the work. "We’ll just do it later" has become her mantra. Now it is one day before the wedding and all the materials are still not here. She wanted the brides maids to do the work ON the wedding DAY. I appreciate all the answers but I think the wedding planners here are not reading what I wrote carefully enough. I’m sure she worked harder than all the bridesmaids (one isn’t she’s just a friend) but that’s a given.. She’s hired and paid for a reason. Bridesmaids aren’t. In fact they are putting away time in their life and jobs.. and spending tons of money for this event. They aren’t factory workers to abuse relentlessly. The wedding planner is not being professional.
Unfortunately it seems as though your friend didn’t do much research before choosing her planner. I am a wedding planner and depending what was in the contract, the wedding planner might not be in the wrong. Wrapping wedding favors, printing out programs and all other extra duties are supposed to be done by the bridesmaids, or any other family members who have agreed to help…unless otherwise stated in the contract. The wedding planner, I promise, had to do much more than the three of you…even though it seems like you haven’t slept and are getting sick of things, you agreed to help once you accepted your duty in the bridal party.
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best thing to do is buy a wedding planning book.
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wedding planners generally do the planning. if that means that they need people to do decorations and favors then that’s what they need you to do. also it is part of your bridesmaid duties. my bridesmaids helped me do my own favors and i made all the place cards and invitations. but if you feel that there is too much stuff being handed to you, discuss that with the planner and ask her for an explanation behind her madness. also, how far away is the wedding? some places that do favors won’t do them in such short notice and will send the pieces to the bride and have her put them together. also it is cheaper to dyi rather than pay someone else to do it for you. just think this is for your friend and it’s not about you. you want to help her much as she can b/c trust me, she’s probably freaking out inside right now.
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i planned my own wedding and did everything pretty much myself with the exception of some favors. i set up and decorated and designed everything in my wedding…. i cried my eyes out the whole week because of stress! just help her out, it will be worth it
wedding planner and wedding coordinator are not always the same…
Wedding Planner - could range from helping plan only, no "hands on" work to full coordination and "day of" services
Wedding Coordinator - always has some type of "hands on" services
Wedding coordinators will help plan & assist the bride in carrying out the plans for the wedding. They are generally not the "favors and invitations" people. You will occasionally get one that will help in whatever way the bride wants, but generally they delegate tasks to those best suited for them and she is best suited to do follow-ups with the vendors and take care of the bride’s last minute needs. Believe me, if she is anything like myself - she is working harder than you are and getting even less sleep than you. The last week before a wedding is a nightmare for almost everyone involved.
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I think that a wedding planner’s top priority is making the wedding day go off without any problems. Does this mean making the bridesmaids run around doing her work? NO! She’s getting paid to get these things done. If she needs extra help to get her tasks accomplished then she should look to her staff to help her out, not the bridal party. She should want you bridesmaids to be there for the bride, you can’t do that if you’re running around doing her errands.
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Unfortunately it seems as though your friend didn’t do much research before choosing her planner. I am a wedding planner and depending what was in the contract, the wedding planner might not be in the wrong. Wrapping wedding favors, printing out programs and all other extra duties are supposed to be done by the bridesmaids, or any other family members who have agreed to help…unless otherwise stated in the contract. The wedding planner, I promise, had to do much more than the three of you…even though it seems like you haven’t slept and are getting sick of things, you agreed to help once you accepted your duty in the bridal party.
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